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erikaOkay, so, I was talking to my mom about Ronon's problems with Aidyn growling 'at' me when we're playing, and I mentioned the thing with Ronon and the Great Dane owned by Voldemort to my mom.
(see the last entry via dreamwidth or livejournal where I mention this. That link should HOPEFULLY take you directly there.)
Uh... So apparently Voldemort lied to me about why Ronon ended up getting injured. According to my mother, who I actually have reason to believe, Ronon didn't start anything. The GD stepped on him and when Ronon growled at her to get off, the GD "took his head in her jaws."
I was pretty much flabberghasted. That is NOT the story I was told. There's a big difference between "my dog ignored your dog until he snapped at her and she retaliated" (Voldemort's original story) versus "my dog stepped on your dog, he growled at her, and she attacked him."
I was pretty circumspect with my mom, so I didn't bring up Voldemort's original story, but I asked her if she was sure, and she got confused. "Why wouldn't I be sure that's what happened? I was there, outside."
Yeah. So... Voldemort continued to lie to me, years after he supposedly "changed into a different person with no responsibility for his prior actions", about why my fucking dog got injured, casting it as the fault of my dog.
So not only is it my fault that he abused me (in his mind, which he's actually said), but it's also my dog's fault that he got bit for setting a boundary (hey, I wouldn't want a great dane to step on me EITHER).
What the fucking fuck. So not only am I not safe around Voldemort because it's open season on me, apparently that applies to my COMPLETELY FUCKING INNOCENT DOGS AS WELL.
Side note: Some people will find this especially amusing, but when I was ranting to Josh about this on the phone, I used Voldemort's name instead of calling him "my older brother" like I'd been doing in the past. (Sometimes I feel better calling him by different things—mostly I just want to completely disassociate him from his relationship with me but using his name is even worse because it makes him sound like an actual decent human being and I have real problems with that.)
Josh got confused when I then referred to Voldemort as "my older brother." Wait, he said, Derek is your older brother's name? I've never heard you use his actual name before. I thought you were maybe talking about an ex.
HAHAHA. Nope! Sorry for the confusion, honey, I'll refer to him by his abuser name from now on.
(see the last entry via dreamwidth or livejournal where I mention this. That link should HOPEFULLY take you directly there.)
Uh... So apparently Voldemort lied to me about why Ronon ended up getting injured. According to my mother, who I actually have reason to believe, Ronon didn't start anything. The GD stepped on him and when Ronon growled at her to get off, the GD "took his head in her jaws."
I was pretty much flabberghasted. That is NOT the story I was told. There's a big difference between "my dog ignored your dog until he snapped at her and she retaliated" (Voldemort's original story) versus "my dog stepped on your dog, he growled at her, and she attacked him."
I was pretty circumspect with my mom, so I didn't bring up Voldemort's original story, but I asked her if she was sure, and she got confused. "Why wouldn't I be sure that's what happened? I was there, outside."
Yeah. So... Voldemort continued to lie to me, years after he supposedly "changed into a different person with no responsibility for his prior actions", about why my fucking dog got injured, casting it as the fault of my dog.
So not only is it my fault that he abused me (in his mind, which he's actually said), but it's also my dog's fault that he got bit for setting a boundary (hey, I wouldn't want a great dane to step on me EITHER).
What the fucking fuck. So not only am I not safe around Voldemort because it's open season on me, apparently that applies to my COMPLETELY FUCKING INNOCENT DOGS AS WELL.
Side note: Some people will find this especially amusing, but when I was ranting to Josh about this on the phone, I used Voldemort's name instead of calling him "my older brother" like I'd been doing in the past. (Sometimes I feel better calling him by different things—mostly I just want to completely disassociate him from his relationship with me but using his name is even worse because it makes him sound like an actual decent human being and I have real problems with that.)
Josh got confused when I then referred to Voldemort as "my older brother." Wait, he said, Derek is your older brother's name? I've never heard you use his actual name before. I thought you were maybe talking about an ex.
HAHAHA. Nope! Sorry for the confusion, honey, I'll refer to him by his abuser name from now on.
