i miss you
Monday, October 6th, 2014 03:46 pmWhy is it so hard to update? Every word like the slow and steady drip of molasses and tar. (Pitch drops like dubstep. Time flies like an arrow; fruit flies like a banana.)
but i'll sit real still, if you don't tell
Wednesday, November 14th, 2012 09:02 amOh, hey, so I realized the other day that I have more squicks than I thought, thanks to an awesome conversation with ![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
treeperson where we bonded over horrible movies.
So I'm going to post a general disclaimer about: what triggers me, what squicks me and what I have a 'phobia' of, since people on dw (yay!) are so generally awesome about wondering about this.
I put phobia in quotes because I have no actual diagnosed phobias aside from um, agoraphobia (it's a long story), so this is really discussing the watered-down idea of 'phobia' as "something you can't stand to hear discussed", not "something you can't stand to the point of avoiding any situation which might include the phobia" which is the more clinical description, I think——except for agoraphobia which I mention briefly.
(People on lj, I still love you, don't worry, you're all awesome, and I'm going to keep crossposting until either all of you move to DW [not holding my breath!] or LJ shuts down, BUT I'm not really adding anyone on LJ anymore so ... everyone who still reads this journal over there has known me basically for years at this point and I doubt anyone reading this via LJ will be surprised by anything I say here.)
That having been said:
This entry contains general descriptions of material that is triggering or squicky or intensely-bad-reaction-making to me personally.
If things bother you that don't bother me, that doesn't mean I'm going to stop warning for them. My warning policy remains the same. (Link goes to a poll & entry posted on dreamwidth which wasn't crossposted to LJ because I no longer have a paid account there.)
I also want to say that in this entry, I'll be talking about my personal reactions to triggering or squicky material. That doesn't mean that if I say "I have a back button and I should've used it" that I think that's what you should do. NO. I am not saying that at all. It is not a judgment of you if you have major reactions to triggers or squicks that you can't control. That's why I warn in the first place.
I care about my readers and consider a great many of them personal friends. Yes, of course I want my friends' support, but I don't want them undergoing mental anguish if this is a subject that causes them such and they're not in a place where they can handle that. Clear? I really do hope so, 'cause this is so sensitive for many people for good reasons.
I guess the good news is nothing really triggers me. ( Text underneath talks about sexual, physical, or mental/emotional assault, including general descripts of stuff in my past, and description of my volunteer work with survivors of sexual assault. )
Basically, what this means is I effectively don't trigger—I suppose if someone just randomly started graphically describing something problematic with NO lead in, I might, but who even does that? Certainly not anyone I've ever run into on DW or LJ.
Um, I'm having a hard time warning for this stuff because it's all squicking me out, so if you can't stand solid bodily waste (ugh), or sounds/smells coming from the butt or sounds from the vagina (particularly MINE, AJSDLK;FJASKLDFJ;) or embarrassment (JESUS CHRIST NO)——— GO AWAY, PLEASE, SAVE YOURSELF, I'M MAKING MYSELF WRITE THIS BUT YOU DON'T HAVE TO READ IT.
In the discussion below, I also mention but do not discuss vomit as a reaction to my squicks; it doesn't happen to be one of them.
I also mention my agoraphobia, but that's not triggered by anyone else talking about it, so... I can talk about it freely, I just can't physically BE in a place where that is a concern.
There's also talk of anal sex and a lot of keyboard mashing when words fail me. Whee!
Alright, so ( my squicks & phobias are: )
oh my god I am never talking about any of this again
unless you want to comment, in which case, FEEL FREE, just ... you know. No details. Plz.
treeperson where we bonded over horrible movies.So I'm going to post a general disclaimer about: what triggers me, what squicks me and what I have a 'phobia' of, since people on dw (yay!) are so generally awesome about wondering about this.
I put phobia in quotes because I have no actual diagnosed phobias aside from um, agoraphobia (it's a long story), so this is really discussing the watered-down idea of 'phobia' as "something you can't stand to hear discussed", not "something you can't stand to the point of avoiding any situation which might include the phobia" which is the more clinical description, I think——except for agoraphobia which I mention briefly.
(People on lj, I still love you, don't worry, you're all awesome, and I'm going to keep crossposting until either all of you move to DW [not holding my breath!] or LJ shuts down, BUT I'm not really adding anyone on LJ anymore so ... everyone who still reads this journal over there has known me basically for years at this point and I doubt anyone reading this via LJ will be surprised by anything I say here.)
That having been said:
This entry contains general descriptions of material that is triggering or squicky or intensely-bad-reaction-making to me personally.
If things bother you that don't bother me, that doesn't mean I'm going to stop warning for them. My warning policy remains the same. (Link goes to a poll & entry posted on dreamwidth which wasn't crossposted to LJ because I no longer have a paid account there.)
I also want to say that in this entry, I'll be talking about my personal reactions to triggering or squicky material. That doesn't mean that if I say "I have a back button and I should've used it" that I think that's what you should do. NO. I am not saying that at all. It is not a judgment of you if you have major reactions to triggers or squicks that you can't control. That's why I warn in the first place.
I care about my readers and consider a great many of them personal friends. Yes, of course I want my friends' support, but I don't want them undergoing mental anguish if this is a subject that causes them such and they're not in a place where they can handle that. Clear? I really do hope so, 'cause this is so sensitive for many people for good reasons.
I guess the good news is nothing really triggers me. ( Text underneath talks about sexual, physical, or mental/emotional assault, including general descripts of stuff in my past, and description of my volunteer work with survivors of sexual assault. )
Basically, what this means is I effectively don't trigger—I suppose if someone just randomly started graphically describing something problematic with NO lead in, I might, but who even does that? Certainly not anyone I've ever run into on DW or LJ.
Um, I'm having a hard time warning for this stuff because it's all squicking me out, so if you can't stand solid bodily waste (ugh), or sounds/smells coming from the butt or sounds from the vagina (particularly MINE, AJSDLK;FJASKLDFJ;) or embarrassment (JESUS CHRIST NO)——— GO AWAY, PLEASE, SAVE YOURSELF, I'M MAKING MYSELF WRITE THIS BUT YOU DON'T HAVE TO READ IT.
In the discussion below, I also mention but do not discuss vomit as a reaction to my squicks; it doesn't happen to be one of them.
I also mention my agoraphobia, but that's not triggered by anyone else talking about it, so... I can talk about it freely, I just can't physically BE in a place where that is a concern.
There's also talk of anal sex and a lot of keyboard mashing when words fail me. Whee!
Alright, so ( my squicks & phobias are: )
oh my god I am never talking about any of this again
unless you want to comment, in which case, FEEL FREE, just ... you know. No details. Plz.
if this is love, i don't remember
Tuesday, July 31st, 2012 04:45 amI'm doing this whole thing where I take off all the LJ accounts cluttering up my access list on dreamwidth.
If I accidentally remove your access, plz let me know here. (If I haven't given you access for some reason [most likely being that I forgot], you can also request it here.)
Comments are screened; thank you for playing.
edited to add: oh my fucking god why do I have 600 lj friends it's 10 minutes after I started this and I've only just reached the Js, please kill me now
edited: 5:02AM: i think my eyes are bleeding
If I accidentally remove your access, plz let me know here. (If I haven't given you access for some reason [most likely being that I forgot], you can also request it here.)
Comments are screened; thank you for playing.
edited to add: oh my fucking god why do I have 600 lj friends it's 10 minutes after I started this and I've only just reached the Js, please kill me now
edited: 5:02AM: i think my eyes are bleeding
i try to discover
Monday, June 6th, 2011 02:43 amConcept borrowed from dingsi and sofiaviolet.
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dingsi and sofiaviolet.Poll #7199 triggers and uncomfortable subjects
Open to: Registered Users, detailed results viewable to: Just the Poll Creator, participants: 17
Please list any phobias you would like me to be aware of.
Please list any topics/situations that trigger you, that you would like me to be aware of.
if there is anything that doesn't fit in the above categories that you would like a warning for, please tell me.
How would you like to be warned? In the cut tag, in the entry itself before the triggering material, or other?
This poll information will only be used to warn for triggering material. I will continue to warn for common place triggers such as abuse, rape, eating disorders, and generally disturbing content (such as suicidal ideation and or suicide aftermath).
For example, I personally don't like gastrointestinal details, i.e. diarrhea or constipation. Someone saying casually "I sh** myself today", regardless of reason, would be right out of what I wanted to read and probably make me gag, if not vomit. Thus, I would not respond to the first two questions (or would respond with none) but would elaborate that I would prefer warnings for gastrointestinal detail, and that I would prefer it be either outside of a cut tag or part of the cut tag (and not just part of the entry) so that I don't accidentally stumble upon it while speed reading or while scrolling up.
Comments are screened to make them a safe place to leave additional info (for example, if you need more space than is available in the textbox). If you would like your comment(s) to be unscreened, please let me know.
