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You get added to my friends' lists if all of the following seem to be true:
1) I like what I see and want to get to know you better.
2) You reflect on your life experiences in depth.
3) You can express yourself effectively, and write material that is original. Expressing yourself effectively means what you write about is interesting even if I don't know you personally, and you write in a style I can comprehend—which usually necessitates proper punctuation and a general grasp of English spelling.
4) You have a good sense of humor and a fairly realistic view of the world—i.e. you think I'm amusing and you don't believe you're an elf. Unless you are an elf, in which case, I'm cool with it.
Reasons I delete people from my friends' list include:
1) You're not as interesting as I thought.
2) Problematic behavior/language happens often with no attempts to change.
3) You prefer deliberate ignorance, and I didn't notice.
4) You make journal entries and / or comments that indicate prejudice, ableism, etc.
5) You completely ignore me—i.e. neither adding me to their friends' list (if they are a friends' only journal) nor replying to my comments, making me feel like I've stepped into a private party where I am completely unwelcome.
6) You are an emotional vampire and I have narrowly escaped your snare.
There is no one on my friends' list who I dislike, am annoyed by, or am disinterested in. The second I realize I'm annoyed by / offended by / disinterested in someone, I drop them. So feel privileged.
(inspired by![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
xoxosimon and his post about this, and also alchemi's whining at me.)
[edited 10/3/10 for ableist language, clarification)
[edited 5/16/2016 because I realized slurs against intelligence are still ableist and don't accurately describe what I mean]
1) I like what I see and want to get to know you better.
2) You reflect on your life experiences in depth.
3) You can express yourself effectively, and write material that is original. Expressing yourself effectively means what you write about is interesting even if I don't know you personally, and you write in a style I can comprehend—which usually necessitates proper punctuation and a general grasp of English spelling.
4) You have a good sense of humor and a fairly realistic view of the world—i.e. you think I'm amusing and you don't believe you're an elf. Unless you are an elf, in which case, I'm cool with it.
Reasons I delete people from my friends' list include:
1) You're not as interesting as I thought.
2) Problematic behavior/language happens often with no attempts to change.
3) You prefer deliberate ignorance, and I didn't notice.
4) You make journal entries and / or comments that indicate prejudice, ableism, etc.
5) You completely ignore me—i.e. neither adding me to their friends' list (if they are a friends' only journal) nor replying to my comments, making me feel like I've stepped into a private party where I am completely unwelcome.
6) You are an emotional vampire and I have narrowly escaped your snare.
There is no one on my friends' list who I dislike, am annoyed by, or am disinterested in. The second I realize I'm annoyed by / offended by / disinterested in someone, I drop them. So feel privileged.
(inspired by
xoxosimon and his post about this, and also alchemi's whining at me.)[edited 10/3/10 for ableist language, clarification)
[edited 5/16/2016 because I realized slurs against intelligence are still ableist and don't accurately describe what I mean]
