pure lunacy

[erika]

INFORMATION OVERLOAD. ADGHHADFADKFJDFJJKALDLJKLJA;ALDSLKJFAL;KSDJFLAKJSDFKLJASLDKFJALKSDJF. TOO MANY BROWSER WINDOWS OPEN (AGAIN AGAIN AGAIN)

REBOOT TO LOWER DATA STREAM. MOVIE Y/N? Y. afk afk afkafk

plz to explain WHY I AM FUCKING AWAKE IN THE MIDDLE OF THE DAMN NIGHT AGAIN

argggggggggggggggggggg

also if you could incorporate how i get rids of fears to succeed & why the hell anyone would stay with me, would appreciate.

Comments

[dragoonz.livejournal.com]

Try to ignore the text-blobby-ness

information overload: calm down - if your head is all full then you wont be able to sleep, get your mind off things THEN sleep. try writing it down, or reading.

fear to succeed: is there such a thing? you're afraid of standing out? - I suppose that might mean you're afraid of what others think and dont want to be judged. This means you have trouble differentiating positive attention from negative. Or you just shut the positive out. Maybe you had use for this behaviour before, but now it doesn't serve much purpose. Try not to ignore positive attention your get from others. When they say, hey you're/what you've done/whatever is cool, dont say "not really" or "yeah but" or anything like that, just say "yeah, thanks". There is the knee jerk from handling it that way forever - so relax after you get that, then calm and full assess. Chances are you deserve this praise, on some level.

Why would anyone stay with you: Well, you're intelligent for one thing, and hey, everyone has their faults. There's a ton of reasons why you might think you don't deserve to be loved, all your tiny faults, all your insecurities, instabilities, quirks. Everyone feels this at some point but really, it all comes down to not properly assessing yourself. Not giving yourself enough credit. Hey if all your faults were what defined your identity, then others would see right through you. They wouldn't want to deal with you at all. But they do, that counts for something. "They're my friends though, they have to put up with my quirks/faults" Not really, because thats not what friendship is. It comes from being liked first, not the other way around.

Unless these were all rhetorical. In that case im just some weirdo internet guy. Yeah.

[silent-lorelei.livejournal.com]

The above poster is right: fear to succeed isn't solvable until you realize why that fear is manifesting. In a lot of cases (cough, mine, cough) it's because of a fear that you won't be able to sustain that success, or that people will begin to hold you to a higher standard and will be more critical of you if you happen to fail at something in the future. Or even, the fear that if you succeed, you will no longer have an excuse, even for yourself, for not succeeding in the future.

Regardless, you need to identify the cause of that fear, and then deal with that. Which is, like, one of the least fun things to do ever in the history of ever.

[dragoonz.livejournal.com]

This is also very true.

Remember that it's ok to fail, alot or a little. It's how we learn, trial and error.

[ex-cirocco891.livejournal.com]

1. Fears to succeed: I dunno. There was a book my mom had when I was a kid called "The Cinderella Complex," which was about how women often wait for a "rescuing" force that isn't coming because they are afraid to take action on their own and risk failure. Being a precocious kid, and you know how that is, I read it at the age of about ten. I wonder if it would be helpful to me now, but in the intervening 28 years I have decided I want nothing to do with self-help books. They were pretty interesting reading at ten, though.

2. Why anyone would stay with you: you are in the process of becoming an extraordinary person. However, the progress you're making isn't going to obvious until you're quite a bit older, if you're on the same path as I. You may outstrip me and be extraordinary at 27, in which case I will buy all your books as I feel like a total loser.

*hugs* (oh noes, hugs!)